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I sent the Marriage Builders links to John and he liked some of the material. He wants to take some time to sit down and read through it together. I don't think that all of our issues are covered there, but the "love busters" really kind of cover everything. Just need to redefine how we think of things.

We're going to go racing at Fairbury on Saturday. Not sure if we'll race Danville or not. No racing on Friday - we're not ready yet. Spent all night last night working on turn signals. Rocko hasn't been putting much time into the car this week (from what I can tell) and I'm not sure what's up with that. He must be hurting pretty bad again.

Mom and Dad closed on their house today and are "moving" down this afternoon. Mom will stay, but I think Dad is going back up and going to bunk in with Jen and Pete for a while. His office is moving up there and wants to see it completed or something before he officially leaves.

That's it for now. I'm going to leave pretty soon. We're going out to the Mexican restaurant in Atwood at 8PM - Jim and Em will be down. So that should be nice.

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I read a lot of stuff on the "Marriage Builders" website today - forwarded some to John too. The author has a concept called a Love Bank. By doing things that meet your partners emotional needs, you make deposits into the bank. By doing things that are Love Busters (disrespectful judgements, selfish demands, angry outbursts, annoying behavior and dishonesty), you make withdrawals from the Love Bank.

I think I can basically fill my own love bank to a certain extent, but require John to actually make the deposit. I get so worked up and loving him, but if he doesn't meet my emotional needs when I see him, all the build up is gone... then I end up doing a love buster action (usually one of the first three).

I really need to control my anger. That's a big one.

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Haven't written in a while. My hormones are raging and it's taking its toll on my relationship with John. I don't feel loved enough and he can't figure out what to do. I feel like we are fighting all the time.

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